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It is a recognized--although rare (less than 1 % of population)--
personality disorder as outlined in the Diagnostic and Statistical
Manual for Mental Disorders, 4th edition.) (My comments in red)
*An exaggerated sense of self-importance (e.g., exaggerates
achievements and talents, expects to be recognized as superior
without commensurate achievements)
(Talk for a half hour and not once ask how you are, spend an
e-mail talking about self, make a simple business decision into
the news story of the week, etc.."If only people would listen to
them," "Why is everyone so stupid?" etc.)
*Preoccupation with fantasies of unlimited success, power,
brilliance, beauty, or ideal love
(Obsessive compulsive, workaholics, extremely anal, controlling,
plan and research things to death, etc. Also use any means to get
what they want --lie, manipulate, intimidate, cheat--and then act
as if the results are a testimony to their innate greatness)
*Believes that he or she is "special" and unique and can only
be understood by, or should associate with, other special or
high-status people (or institutions)
(Makes anything they do seem like the cream of the crop--they
wouldn't associate with anything that wasn't, and by virtue of
their presence everything is better. Likewise drawn to highly
popular, wealthy, charming other people so that they can have
their 'greatness' validated by identifying/absorbing)
*Requires excessive admiration
(Will turn the conversation to self, dig for compliments, ignore
your accomplishments, devalue you in order to receive more
attention, etc. Become sullen and pout, even angry, at not
receiving sufficient attention or if another person has the spotlight.)
*Has a very strong sense of entitlement, e.g., unreasonable
expectations of especially favorable treatment or automatic
compliance with his or her expectations
(Astonished when rules apply to them, hates to be corrected,
does not like to be kept waiting, etc. Expect their ideas to be
accepted, their thoughts to be respected, their plans to go
unchallenged, etc)
*Is exploitative of others, e.g., takes advantage of others to
achieve his or her own ends
(Likes people who 'hero-worship' and tend to surround self
with two extremes; people they feel they aren't as good as
whom they want to accept them...and people they feel superior
to whom they want to crush and use as Source for their esteem.
Will seduce and entice--tell people what they want to hear--to
get their desired results.)
*Lacks empathy, e.g., is unwilling to recognize or identify with the
feelings and needs of others
(If you share with them or express emotion, they may change the
subject, ignore you, laugh at you, condemn you, or get angry.
Sometimes will even appear baffled and confused, which is
their real response to emotions typically...unless they want
something from you and are trying to appear kind until they get it.)
*Is often envious of others or believes that others are envious
of him or her
(but does not tend to let on about this; pettiness emerges in
time if you are in the 'inner sanctum'. Basically, everything revolves
around them, positive or negative.)
*Regularly shows arrogant, haughty behaviors or attitudes
("Let me know how that works out for ya!", sneers, dismissive
glances, casually referring to others or their ideas as 'ignorant',
ending relationships on a whim, condemns others, believes self
superior to others in all ways....are all signs of NPD)
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