If we can't find love readily, we can also find our worth externally
by finding the opposite emotion; hatred! Humans are very adept
at being combative.
We can manufacture a fight over the most ridiculous things
imaginable... because it's never really about the toothbrush or the
toilet paper.
Being combative or making an enemy out of someone is an
identity of its own. It's the ultimate distraction from the undesirable
nature of what truly irks us.
The conflict gives us a purpose...something to fight against, a
passion about being alive. It may be someone with a different
political view, a neighbor who doesn't live as we think they
should, a former friend or lover who 'wronged' us, or simply
someone who 'rubs us the wrong way.'
Discontent, rivalry, upset, drama, superiority, inferiority,
victimization, hate, condescension...these are all harmful and
unproductive ways of becoming high on self or having a reason
to get out of bed.
A major source of rationale for engaging in disputes is the
distraction it can provide from our own lives and our own
character issues or life problems that need addressing. If we
fear facing our uncomfortable demons, what better way to
avoid than to demonize someone else as the cause of conflict
in our lives?
Feeling superior to another is NOT feeling good about self.
((Read quotes marked in the following:
Awakening.....4 Agreements....essay from How to Profit))
What are some examples of how we actively run someone
down to make ourselves feel better?
(Gossip...criticism....judgment....ignoring....being cold.....)
We have to learn as responsible mature adults how to meet
our own needs. It isn't anyone else's job.
No one can read our minds. Passive aggressiveness is not a
communication technique.
(continued)...
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