world...and it isn't for the weak of heart.
With all the scrutiny and proliferation of images and ideas, we're
all likely to find ourselves guilty of comparing our lives to the lives
of others. Or at least what those lives look like on the outside!
Because we're hurting, struggling, and afraid, we can assume we're
'not doing it right.' Because we look at the illusion other people
maintain. 'Fronting' is common amongst everyone--especially
the wealthy, who know that attitude and psychological intimidation
are means of winning the game--by throwing others off theirs.
But you can never assume you know someone's real situation.
Everyone keeps their cards close to the vest; image and
illusion are a part of the game. Pretending to do well carries
the same weight as actually doing well (in the eyes of the world,)
and appearing less vulnerable is a common, smart sttrategy.
But it's that very habit of comparing what others appear to
be doing (against our jaded view of our own capabilities) that
brings on trouble. Often without even realizing it, those of us
with mental health issues buy into the world's notion that we
are less than, incapable, repugnant, don't measure up, and all
other manner of negative tripe.
Those attitudes are so pervasive that we end up taking
them on as our own, refusing to question them...refusing
even to be able to see ourselves objectively. It's good to clear
the baggage in our heads and refocus on what is true, without
emotion and assumption and jealousy fogging our minds.
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